By this logic, self-improvement goals should be easy because there is no other party to cooperate with. There's only your goal to lose weight, your goal to exercise more, your goal to spend more time with your children, etc. The benefits to you in all cases are clear. So why do so many people struggle with keeping such commitments?
In many ways, your short-term self (ST) and your long-term self (LT) are different parties. LT would love to look better in a swimsuit for summer by shedding 20 pounds, but ST would really like that slice of cheesecake. The long duration of the goal, the more LT and ST clash.
StickK helps to align ST and LT's goals by imposing simple penalties when ST starts to stray. Here's how it works (for, say, weight loss)
- You enter in your current weight, height and target weight
- You give a time frame in weeks, with a maximum weight loss of two pounds per week.
- You offer a monetary penalty of, say, $100 per week and either a charity or anti-charity recipient.
Charities: American Red Cross, CARE, Doctors without Borders, Feed the Children, Freedom from Hunger, Multiple Sclerosis Society, UNICEF, and United Way.
Anti-Charities: NARAL Pro-Choice America Foundation, Americans United for Life, Freedom to Marry, Institute for Marriage and Public Policy, Educational Fund to Stop Gun Violence, NRA Foundation, Nature Conservancy, and The National Center for Public Policy Research. - You choose to either have the goal "on your honor" or to have friends referee you.
- Each week, you (or your referees) log in to track your progress. If you're on track, great! Otherwise, well, there goes your $100.
Just one gripe: selecting an anti-charity as a recipient feels a little strange - even unethical - to me. Sure, donating to a group that I strongly oppose, such as a Pro-Life organization, might offer additional motivation, but helping a Pro-Life organization is directly hurting a Pro-Choice organization. It doesn't feel right to me to have my failures unnecessarily impact the pro-choice movement or another group that I support.
Thoughts?
2 comments:
I think the idea is that by donating to an anti-charity, you're artificially making other people depend on your success. Therefore you're adding more motivation than just selfishness.
I don't like the whole idea of artificial consequences, so it doesn't seem like the stickk thing is for me. I've also tried them and they don't work for me.
I understand what you're saying about ST and LT. But I think the way to improve that is not to treat my "selves" as negotiating parties that need external carrots/sticks to come to an agreement -- it's to actually discover that my "selves" are not in conflict, and be able to be both my long term and short term selves.
Does that sound too weird? :)
(Gayle, you might not remember me, but I met you at a Halloween dinner at Brendan R's place)
nice article, i saw the picture you used in your article somewhere.
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